You’re a good mom, no diggity, no doubt
Hey Sis,
Welcome to the blog of New Chapter Counseling Services.
Here, we’ll talk about a bunch of different topics – but all things related to being a woman.
Soooo, Sunday, March 8, 2026, was International Woman’s Day. I guess it’s a lot easier to say than International Chef, Maid, Hair and Clothing Stylist, Secretary, Nurse, Researcher, Driver, Organizer, Personal Shopper, Caretaker, and Empathy Giver Day.
Is it just me or are we as women challenged to wear a lot of hats? And if you’re anything like me, sometimes it gets exhausting.
There are mornings I literally just want to stay in bed and mindlessly scroll Facebook or Insta. But just lying down for an extra hour of two leads to mommy guilt.
“I should’ve gotten up.”
“I could’ve made them breakfast.”
“They probably needed me, and I was in bed.”
Then, you finally get up, feeling less rested than you were before.
Mommy guilt is real, especially with social media sometimes reminding you that you “should” be doing more.
Y’all know what I mean.
That one friend who is “supermom” – driving her kids to cheerleading, basketball, gymnastics and swimming. Making breakfast every morning, prepping lunches for school and cooking a wholesome dinner every night. Working and going to school full-time. All while looking magnificent AND being a good wife.
Orrrrrrrrr the mom who’s making bento box lunches with exotic perfectly cut fruits and vegetables, freshly sourced from her greenhouse. With her kitchen fully stocked and organized with the labeled snack drawers. She has special containers for everything from the cookies to the laundry detergent. AND she makes fresh sourdough bread every week.
Unless, you are that mom – you probably can’t stand them like me. LOL
Some of us are just trying our best, and that may be pouring a bowl of cereal in the morning before putting your kiddo on the bus.
And let me tell you mama, that’s ok!
Remember those folks on social media are just showing us what they want us to see. It’s a snippet of their world carefully curated to look super joyful and stress-free.
Even if you know a “supermom” in real life, know that we are all different, and you can provide love and support for your kids in a way that works for you.
Maybe you’re the mom who plays video games with your kiddo. Or the mom who bakes with her munchkin on Saturdays. The secret is to find ways to fill your child’s cup without emptying yours.
I say this to you with love, because it’s something I need to hear myself – and I know I’m not alone.
It may be one way to God (as the song states) but, there isn’t just one way to mom.
Here’s my checklist I use to ensure that I’m doing a pretty good job:
1. Are they fed?
2. Are they clothed?
3. Do they have shelter?
4. Are they safe (mentally and physically)?
5. Do they feel heard?
6. Do you tell them you love them?
7. Do you acknowledge them for doing their best?
8. Did you apologize to them if you needed to?
9. Did you encourage/motivate them?
10. Were you there when they needed you?
11. And, if you’re religious, did you pray for them?
There are going to be days when all the answers are yes – and some days, you may lack in a particular area.
But guess what? There’s always tomorrow and the day after that.
Our kids don’t expect perfection – matter of fact, it’s best to model healthy human behaviors for them. We may slip up, we may make mistakes, we may get exhausted, and things may get hard…But persistence, grace, self-motivation, self-care and maybe even reaching out for help (i.e. getting therapy) are all great life skills and tools to teach your kids how to utilize as they grow into successful adults.
In the words of Tupac Shakur, “Keep your head up,” mama.
We love you, and we’re here to help if you need some extra support.