Dating tips…Because we all deserve love
Last weekend, it was revealed that Megan Thee Stallion ended the relationship with her “man” after he supposedly cheated on her.
Now, Meg is my cousin in my head, so I’m hurting for her. I really thought he would be good for her. They came out as a couple in 2025. Made all kinds of appearances. She was at his games. He introduced her to his family. She wrote a song about him. He named his boat after her. They moved in together. All things seemed perfect. And then he cheated – allegedly.
Personally, I had no clue of who he was prior to dating my play cousin, so I know nothing about this man (insert KeKe Palmer “Sorry for this man” meme here.) But, it’s been revealed that he was supposedly for the streets prior to their relationship. I guess Meg believed he would drop the old ways when he got with her. I mean all public signs pointed to him being a good man for her. Yet, he proved to be like many of the men she’s unfortunately encountered in her past.
It seems to be the new pattern for some men to waste the time of beautiful successful women who were minding their business before they came along and disrupted their peace. And I absolutely hate it. Baddies with business acumen everywhere are getting mistreated, and I’m beginning to lose faith – even though I’m married (after divorcing a cheater - but that’s a story for another day). Halle Berry, Gabrielle Union, Christina Milian, Beyonce, Cardi B., now Meg.
I may not know what these women are like in relationships, but what I do know is that I want all of us to find love. To be happy in relationships. To find the one who matches our fly. Someone to dance with. To laugh with someone and be with someone who won’t make you cry but will wipe your tears away when the world does. We all deserve that!
But there seems to be so much pee in the dating pool – even for celebrities.
And it may make you think, “if they can’t find real love, there is no hope for me.” Shoot, their experiences even make me side eye my husband on occasion. Every once in a while, I look at him like “where you been?” and “who were you with?”
We all have goals to find our Russell Wilson (please let him and Ciara stay together foreva), so here are some tips - I’ve learned the hard way- to help you find your prince and hopefully weed out the frogs.
1. Find someone who makes you smile.
2. Check their background.
3. Pay attention to their family dynamic.
4. Make sure you have at least 3 hobbies or interests in common.
5. Ask about how they want to raise children. If they have kids, observe their parenting style.
6. Do you align religiously?
7. How do your values and morals align with theirs?
8. Talk to exes if possible. (Sounds crazy but not all exes are bitter.)
9. Look at their work ethic.
10. Get into an argument or have the tough conversations. You need to see first-hand how they handle conflict.
11. Find someone with a similar educational background.
12. Don’t fall in love with potential.
13. Check for consistency.
14. Run from red flags. Zero tolerance. They are grown, and you’re not the mama.
15. Give people a fair chance, but don’t let them take advantage of you.
16. Don’t let a physical preference stop you from finding your Boaz.
17. Work on you first! I know, we’re great, it’s everyone else…but dig deep. Self-examine, know your weak areas, learn where you can improve. And correct it.
Relationships are tough. Be aware of your non-negotiables and stick to them. Don’t let a partner make you feel less than or take away your sparkle. If they deplete more than they add to your life, it’s time to say goodbye. In the words of Swiss Beats (even though he’s probably the worse person to quote pertaining to this situation), “on to the next one.”
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